Wednesday, June 30, 2010
Tuesday, June 29, 2010
Monday, June 28, 2010
I had an uneventful week last week yet I feel like I was run over by a truck. Being off birth control has left me looking like a 13 year old that doesn't wash her face...I swear I do though. I feel like a fat cow. I feel like I do everything yet nothing is getting done. Most days I am invisible trying to even be translucent. I feel like I am just going through the motions and the only way people see me is if they accidentally step on me. Dh lately has seemed to have lost his filter on his mouth and on more than one occasion this week one comment has brought me to tears.
I was able to get away for the weekend to see one of my best friends. I met her online through the knot and I am sad she lives 3 hours away. I miss the days of the knot when we had gtg's and hung out and I felt like I had a life. When I was feeling less invisible. I had friends. We try to e-mail and facebook and text but both of us have husbands and furry kids and school and sometimes it is hard. We finally picked a weekend and decided to stick with it. Being in the car alone on the drive was nice. No one complained how fast I was driving or how loud the music was. We had a great time talking and shopping and eating. I was able to check a few things off my 101 in 1001 days list too. I did open my mouth and say something stupid which just added to the weight of things I hate about myself this week. I thought about it the entire drive home about what an idiot I am. When I got home dh was complaining about something and made another comment that I cried about.
This is Neko. He was checking out all the cool stuff we got while shopping.
This is Jewel and Knight. They are greyhound rescue's and they are the sweetest and softest doggies. I wanted to take them home with me.
Friday, June 25, 2010
While I do enjoy downtime during naps, we swim, go to the library, play at the park...and numerous other activities my children learn. I will brag about my amazing 3 year old for a second and compare her to another 3 year old that is 6 months older than her. My child spends her time with a nanny- me and the other child is watched by her grandmother. I am sure the little girl still has tons of fun and gets lots of love and hugs but so does my child.
Example- Lets say A is my child and B is the playdate girl. A is 3 and B is 3.5 approximately. We decided to play the lady bug game. (a great game for little ones and I don't hate it after playing it 4 times a day 5 days in a row. So A knows that green means go and red means backwards. Red does confuse her a little bit because at stop lights she knows green means go, red means stop, and yellow means slow down...in the game red means go backwards. They have little yellow squares to help the child count how many squares to go forward or backward. A knows her numbers up to 9 by sight so when she sees 4 she doesn't have to count the squares. She shows me 4 fingers and says go, 4 spaces, move ahead. Cuteness. B looked at me like I had 3 heads. I had her count the squares. B can count but the concept of counting squares was lost on her. She also could not tell me which way was forward or backward and even had trouble when I said move that way and pointed.
While A and I do a lot of "play" during the day there is not a moment I am not thinking how can I teach her something during this. Learning should be fun.
A can write her name, knows the alphabet song and can identify at least 10 letters, can count to 20, can count to 10 on her fingers, does simple math, can follow rules in a game with help, she knows how to move the mouse and click on a button on the computer, she dresses herself, can go potty herself, has been known to get her own food from the counter/fridge when mommy is in the other room. She is also a no fear swimmer. I practiced swimming with her yesterday and took off her life jacket. She is finally tall enough to touch the bottom and ready for swim lessons. She was jumping off the second step swimming under the water after 5 minutes of practicing. I had my arms out every time to catch her but she knew to come up she had to put her feet down. I am so proud of my little one!
Her mom and I joke that when she starts a pre-school program in the fall she will just be going for the social aspect of it.
I would love to win these for my kids I work with. We have a few for water bottles but recently we have been going to swim team and the 6 yr old ends up being on his own. We are forever trying to match up which blue croc goes with which child and he is always losing/leaving items at school. I think it is a 6 year old brain thing. The child cannot even remember to close the door when he walks into the house after school. If I say "name" He looks at me with a blank stare and goes " Oh yea door...I forgot" How does one forget the door is open when you just walked through it?
Thursday, June 24, 2010
(Reuters Health) - Could a glass of wine a day early in pregnancy yield better behaved kids? Maybe, according to results of a new study.
Researchers found that the children of women who were light or moderate drinkers (2 to 6 drinks per week or one per day) early in pregnancy tended to have "more positive" behavior than the children of mothers who did not drink at all early in pregnancy.
"This positive behavior meant that the children of light and moderate drinkers had less emotional and behavioral problems through childhood and adolescence," Dr. Monique Robinson, from Telethon Institute for Child Health Research in West Perth, Western Australia, told Reuters Health by email.
The new findings, published in the obstetrics and gynecology journal BJOG, are based on 14 years' worth of data in the Western Australian Pregnancy Cohort (Raine) Study.
The women provided information on their weekly drinking habits during early pregnancy: 59 percent of women reported no drinking; 20 percent reported occasional drinking (up to one standard drink per week); 15 percent reported light drinking (2-6 drinks per week); 3 percent moderate drinking (7-10 per week); and 2 percent reported heavy drinking (11 or more per week).
The behavior of 2,370 children was assessed every 2-3 years between the ages of 2 and 14.
Compared with mothers who did not drink in the first 3 months of pregnancy, those who were light drinkers during this time had better behaved children over 14 years, as indicated by better scores on a standard checklist used by psychologists.
Children of light to moderate drinkers early in pregnancy had a "clinically meaningful" lower risk of internalizing behavior (in which negativity is directed inwards, for example depression) and externalizing behavior (such as aggression), than children of nondrinkers.
As an example, at the age of 14, 127 children of nondrinkers had internalizing problems (14 percent) and 159 (18 percent) had externalizing problems. By comparison, among light drinkers, only 32 children (10 percent) had internalizing problems and 45 (13 percent) had externalizing problems.
Research has shown that moderate drinkers are mentally healthier than both abstainers and addicts, which could help explain these findings, the researchers say. There may biological reasons as well; namely, low doses of alcohol in pregnancy may help calm the mother-to-be, perhaps yielding calming kids.
"Given what we know about the dangers of frequent heavy consumption of alcohol in pregnancy, these results may initially appear surprising," Robinson admitted. For example, fetal alcohol syndrome is a well-described condition. "However, we need to be cautious about generalizing the effects of a heavy alcohol intake to a light consumption of alcohol -- they are not equal."
Robinson also noted that some studies have found a light consumption of alcohol in pregnancy to be associated with positive cognitive outcomes for children. "But the light-to-moderate intake results tend to be overshadowed by the focus on harm at the excessive intake end of the scale," she said.
With about half of all pregnancies in Australia being unplanned (with similar figures for the US and UK), the current findings should be reassuring to women, Robinson said.
"Women may be drinking alcohol in small amounts prior to recognition of the pregnancy and we feel these data highlight that it is unlikely that this has harmed their unborn child's mental health," she said.
"Women should not feel guilty or anxious about low-level drinking effects prior to recognition of the pregnancy. However, binge and large alcohol intake should still be avoided as this does have potential for harm," Robinson emphasized.
Nonetheless, Robinson does not advise women who are pregnant or trying to become pregnant to head to the local pub. She also emphasized that child behavior is "just one of many outcomes that might be assessed with regards to alcohol consumption during pregnancy. While our study found light drinking during pregnancy was not associated with increased risk for the child, national guidelines recommend the safest choice is to avoid alcohol once the pregnancy is known."
"The best option," Robinson said, "is for women to ask their obstetric care provider (obstetrician, midwife, family doctor, etc) and work with that person on their decision regarding alcohol."
SOURCE: link.reuters.com/mek29k BJOG, online May 28, 2010.
Thoughts or comments?
I have cut back on how much wine I intake now that I am trying and I also plan to avoid alcohol in the first trimester. However I do plan to have an occasional glass of wine throughout the rest of my pregnancy should I have no other complications. I can see this article being taken out of hand in women who get knocked up and are semi or full blown alcoholics. A drink is good for the baby. I would be interested in seeing the rates of fetal alcohol syndrome also in the women of the study.
It is amazing to see the show I didn't know I was pregnant and the women that have no prenatal care and continued to drink and smoke and still end up having healthy babies.
Wasn't it 40 years ago doctors encouraged women to smoke to gain less pregnancy weight? It was also when women were knocked out and handed a baby the next morning.
Wednesday, June 23, 2010
I will have to say word verification on any website gets me every time. I do better when they at least give me real words but other than that I think it takes at least 3 tries every time just to get through. When the n looks like an h and you have them all scrunched together...how am I supposed to figure out maldarthy...is that even a word? I feel totally dumb when it comes to them and if I click the handicap button to hear the numbers I think I usually get 3 out of 8? If you are not getting comments it is because I am too dumb to get past your word verification.
I also want to apologize because I did not realize word verification was enabled on my blog. It has since been disabled so feel free to comment away!
This may seem like common sense to most but apparently I am lacking this time in that department. People like comments...so if you are complaining or upset at your lack of comments you should look to see how many comments you have left on other people's blogs. Is that number 3? Then that explains why you only have 2 comments.
I vow to be better at posting comments. :-)
I also learned that people love pictures. I love taking pictures so I will work on getting more on this blog. I like to make people happy.
Tuesday, June 22, 2010
10 Things Tuesdays! Ten things made you happy this week? Blog about 'em! Ten things you want to do before the week's over? Blog 'em! Any ten things, any theme you wish, every Tuesday over at Magnolia Queen.
I have had blogs before but I have never been that social and so I end up slacking off because no one ever reads my post. In my effort to become more social and have more followers I have joined a few social blog sites. I hope I am doing this right. 1
10 things for this week
1. I have an amazing job that I wouldn't trade for anything and it gives me free time and time at the pool
2. This weekend I will visit my friend in Charlotte for the first time. I am super excited and I have never been to Charlotte. She is also an amazing cook/baker so I look forward to that.
3. I get to see kids that I used to baby-sit for that I haven't seen since before Thanksgiving on Friday.
4. I get to keep my BCBS insurance and ad maternity instead of switching to Dh's horrible horrible insurance
5. Chili in a can. It might be a simple thing but it has totally made my week. We had chili cheese Nathan's hot dogs last night and it was heaven.
6. Vacation. Dh and I recently planned a vacation to the mountains for our anniversary and I am starting the countdown. I have a few things lined up that I am excited to try for the first time.
7. My 101 in 1001 days challenge. I never follow through with New Year's resolutions and by blogging it I have been more motivated to complete tasks and blog about it. Check out Day Zero Project for more details.
8. The post below. Free stuff and coupons.
9. Blackberry Cobbler. I am making it for the first time today and I can't wait to taste its sweet crumbly goodness
10. The Bump - I have found so much knowledge, advice, and support that I couldn't have found elsewhere. It is also nice to have someone to talk to about ttc without my whole entire family/friends knowing.
You should check out Deal Wise Mommy She has become my new favorite website for coupons, freebies, and giveaways. Just the other day I bought a canvas for my mom. She has been asking since our wedding in Aug 08 for a 11x14 of one of our prints. I did not really want to pay $60 and since I am cheap I have been waiting for a good deal. I bought it from Canvas People for only $9.99. The 8x10 was free. Shipping was around $14 but they ship it either Fed Ex or UPS.
What is your favorite website for deals or coupons?
What is the most you have saved on a grocery shopping trip? I think mine is somewhere around $150 off $300.
Monday, June 21, 2010
Sunday, June 20, 2010
Saturday, June 19, 2010
Our journey starts in 2005 when I met my husband. I knew from the beginning that he was different and that he was the one. We married in 2008 on the beach with a very unique reception. We have 3 dogs and 2 cats. Sadly we lost one of our cats this year. I was diagnosed with PCOS before I met my husband in 2003. I knew this was why I had always had irregular cycles and that trying for a baby may not be as easy as I had hoped. Recently my husband had a semen analysis and it came back with low morphology. We are waiting to see a RE urologist to take the next step.
Between scheduling the RE urologist appointment and changing my insurance we are on a tiny break until after July 15th. Hopefully this means we can try again for a anniversary baby in August.